Do you feel like you don’t belong?

Dr. Grant Mullen Churches and Leadership, I am significant, Live fearlessly, Moods, Relationships, Uncategorized 7 Comments

I felt like an outsider

It’s unpleasant and uncomfortable.

Made me feel small and insignificant.

I bet you’ve felt that way too.

It can start very early in childhood and affect your whole life.

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Comments 7

  1. Good words, Grant. Emotional pain from rejection is often far more long lasting and significant than physical pain. It speaks lies about your identity which can affect you life throughout your lifetime. Thanks for your encouraging words on the topic.

    1. Thank you,

      It started as a little girl when my mom said she didn’t have a love for me like her other kids. Which brought lies of feeling different from my sisters or family or what I did. These are all lies. I know through my father I’m loved, especially if my birth mother was unable or had brokenness or was believing lies. I’m thankful through Dr. Grant & his wife renewing my mind. I’m learning to connect to father and forgive and trust him to restore my identity of his love that I’m part of a big family so Satan He is a liar. I’m laying down lies I believed as a child because of my—parents’ brokenness.

  2. The four biggest factors, for me, in not being lost feeling like an outcast, is knowing that the thoughts that come to my mind are not all from myself or God. Satan and his demons are able to send me thoughts that I absorb in my sin nature. So I know the crappie thoughts are not based in truth. As Satan is the father of lies who comes to kill steal and destroy my life, my well being, my testimony of God’s amazing live and restoration.

    Another knowledge that effects me is what Jesus said on the cross. “Forgive them Father, for they do not know what they do”. This is true for every human who hurts me. Even those who are being selfish and indifferent to my pain really don’t get my pain so they really don’t know.

    The third thing is to forgive people…every night… and again on other says … until I get resolved peace. We just can’t not forgive no matter how rude and deliberate and knowledgeable people are in their actions that harm us. Forgiving in duty has saved my life. I truly forgive readily now consistently.

    Finally, any action I take to bounce back, to do what I think Jesus wants me to do and any effort to be humble responsible for my own choices, actions and circumstances has great results. We don’t need to figure out a perfect plan, we just need to make a righteous plan and act on it. That humble obedience and submission is a signuficant way of how we get favor and blessing…change!

    Thank you Grant for your real messages that matter!

  3. Hi Grant and Cathy. This really spoke loud to me. I am 69 years old and my siblings are all in their 80’s. So when my mother found out she was pregnant with me, she told my dad that she did NOT want this baby. He could have me and name me. So he named me Helen, after her and Isobel, after a favourite aunt of his and since my divorce, I have taken back my maiden name, McKellar. When I was 2, dad got bowel cancer and so he knew he was going to die, so he had my bed, my little table set and my toys in his bedroom. I remember him well. But it is bitter/sweet. As I also can still remember him tossing and turning crying in severe pain. They did not have good pain control back in the 50’s. I would stand at the head of his bed and comb his hair. He would fall asleep. He passed away when I was 5. My mother and her boyfriend did not want me. I lived out of a suitcase at a friends, family or neighbours most of the time. She never bonded with me, or combed my hair, read to me etc……I felt like an unwanted orphan and I still do to this day. Daily I work with God to help me to realize that I am a beloved daughter of His. I don’t know where I would be, without God, Jesus and Holy Spirit. You have helped me so so much. And I am so grateful for that. Do you remember me telling you his name is also Grant? None of my siblings bother with me. And I have two sons. Jason, who is 50 and cut me out of his life 20 years ago. I don’t know my two grand-daughters, Kayla and Hannah. And my other son never calls, no cards, etc. But twice a month I call and can talk with Tyler(18), Cheyanne(16) and Michael (13). But Shawn told me he liked my one sister, Doris better than me. She abuses me since a little girl. Shawn holds me emotionally hostage. I am always nervous. I pray for them. There is such a big hole in my soul. I try to fill it with God’s Word daily. I have PTSD, depression and anxiety. I have to take 11 different meds just to cope. I pray for you both and your wonderful ministry. This video today spoke so loud to me. God bless you for caring and helping me. Much love in Christ, your sister – Isobel

  4. Hi Grant and Cathy. This really spoke loud to me. I am 69 years old and my siblings are all in their 80’s. So when my mother found out she was pregnant with me, she told my dad that she did NOT want this baby. He could have me and name me. So he named me Helen, after her and Isobel, after a favourite aunt of his and since my divorce, I have taken back my maiden name, McKellar. When I was 2, dad got bowel cancer and so he knew he was going to die, so he had my bed, my little table set and my toys in his bedroom. I remember him well. But it is bitter/sweet. As I also can still remember him tossing and turning crying in severe pain. They did not have good pain control back in the 50’s. I would stand at the head of his bed and comb his hair. He would fall asleep. He passed away when I was 5. My mother and her boyfriend did not want me. I lived out of a suitcase at a friends, family or neighbours most of the time. She never bonded with me, or combed my hair, read to me etc……I felt like an unwanted orphan and I still do to this day. Daily I work with God to help me to realize that I am a beloved daughter of His. I don’t know where I would be, without God, Jesus and Holy Spirit. You have helped me so so much. And I am so grateful for that. Do you remember me telling you his name is also Grant? None of my siblings bother with me. And I have two sons. Jason, who is 50 and cut me out of his life 20 years ago. I don’t know my two grand-daughters, Kayla and Hannah. And my other son never calls, no cards, etc. But twice a month I call and can talk with Tyler(18), Cheyanne(16) and Michael (13). But Shawn told me he liked my one sister, Doris better than me. She abuses me since a little girl. I don’t have a car and live in government low income housing without a car. I haven’t seen them for almost three years now. But my sister Doris always tells me how my sons and their families come to her home etc.. I asked her not to tell me as it hurts me and that what I don’t know won’t hurt me. It only makes her worse. Shawn holds me emotionally hostage. I am always nervous. I pray for them. There is such a big hole in my soul. I try to fill it with God’s Word daily. I have PTSD, depression and anxiety. I have to take 11 different meds just to cope. I pray for you both and your wonderful ministry. This video today spoke so loud to me. God bless you for caring and helping me. Much love in Christ, your sister – Isobel

  5. Thank you, Dr. Grant…and Kathy…I certainly know why this “from the archives” video is so very valued…Belonging is so foundational…I personally appreciate the truths you’ve shared…He continues to graciously rebuild His truth into the gaps.

  6. I listened to Grants experience, I heard him mention that horrible feeling of not feeling like you belong/fit in. I’ve felt that way for most of my life. Now I’ve just turned 60 yrs! Question if that feeling will ever really go away. Yes, it causes shame, anger, deep sadness 🥺😞😣😭😠here r some inner expressions. My awful feeling of this has inflicted agony since my youth! Truly, in some ways I wasn’t certain I wanted to be here at this point in life! Yet, still here. Maybe it’s cause I’m not really certain about how to leave this evil, cruel, demonic world that’s only going to get much worse. Bible says so. I’ve got so much more to say here, but nope, doubt that would help me much. 👋

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