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Do you have a problem with anger?
God gave us emotions and anger is one of them.
Why would God give us the capacity for such a dangerous emotion?
What triggers our anger and what useful purpose could it serve?
How can we be angry and not sin?
Once again this week our guests are Tommy and Mari Anne Andersen from Freedom House Ministry in Chicago. They are professional counselors who help people with anger.
Anger is like a warning light on your emotional dashboard.
In this video you will learn the roots of anger and how Jesus wants to help you resolve them.
Just click on the video and calm down.
To live a transformed life, you need to diffuse and control your anger.
Now I want to hear from you
How has God helped you with anger?Â Just leave your comments in the box below.
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Thank you for this video, Dr Grant..I never even realised I had anger problems for most of my life. Because of an abusive, traumatic past, I wore a mask almost all my life, pasted a smile on my face, and pretended everthing was okay. It’s only when I became a christian and went for counseling because of repressed, childhood memories, did I realise I had a huge problem with anger due to numerous injustices I had suffered and repressed for lack of knowing how to deal with them.I’m not where I’d like to be, but I thank God that with the help of His sweet, precious Holy Spirit, I am dealing with the roots of my past little by little.Now I understand why I struggled with a horrible fear of abandoment most of my life.I was very angry as a child because of unmet needs and lots of pain, and as an adult I continued thinking no one would care for me or ever meet my needs, which led me to believe everyone would either reject me or abandon me like my parents did.This video has brought more clarity to my situation, and I thank you..God richly bless you all.
Thanks Glory. Glad to hear that you are making progress with God’s help. You may find my DVD Overcoming Rejection to be helpful. You can preview the first 5 minutes here: https://drgrantmullen.com/resources/overcoming-rejection/
Thanks for this very valuable video, Dr. Grant. I had a difficult family life, mostly involving neglect, unacceptance and criticism from both parents and sisters. I made unwise decisions re the most important ones- like marriage partner and career choice. I sent away my “true love” in fear that one day he’d realize I was a mistake for him, too. It wasn’t until some time after leaving the family home that I realized I was in emotional trouble- very wounded and angry. I was so frightened that the only way I could fall asleep was to picture God’s soft, protective wing covering me. I realized He had always been with me and, although it took time, He led me through from feeling like a hopeless loser to someone very loved and cared for.
First, He had me make a list of everyone who had ever hurt me, what specifically each one had done and how it had make me feel. Then, I forgave each, one at time. I didn’t have the courage to do this in person, so I sat with a chair opposite me and spoke like the person was actually there! Sounds strange, but it was very effective. I said, “Right now, I’m doing the talking and you’re doing the listening!”
Then I went through the list of hurts & how they made me feel. Last, I forgave each one because God had forgiven me of so much more. It was tough, sometimes, but always very worthwhile. Whenever the memory came back (along with the original feelings), I traded them for the Lord’s peace and love.
The second thing He showed me was to ask Him, each day at least once, to show me how HE sees me- not how I or others see me. He very patiently has given me so much love and healing that I found solid ground under my feet instead of quicksand and began to also feel valued with a useful and purposeful future.
Third thing I did, came from you, I believe. I asked God to show me HIS view of hurtful situations and the behaviour of the person doing them. In each case, He gave me understanding of both the situation and the person involved. It was amazing to actually watch my anger, resentment and selfpity do a turnaround to knowing what in their own history had caused them to turn their hurt to me- even to often feeling compassion for their situation.
God did all this at MY speed- not His. He is total kindness, totally trustworthy and comes to each of us with healing in His wings.
May His gentle, amazing love heal and bless each one of you!
We have a 12 year old son, Zachery, who is so angry at times. We are unable to help him and he is destructive to our house and relationships. Do you have any suggestions for how to deal with pre-teen anger?
Jinny, that is such a powerful and encouraging testimony. Thanks for sharing it.
Alan, I’d be happy to discuss the situation with you. Just contact me for a coaching appointment https://drgrantmullen.com/coaching/
Christians have not often gone deep enough in understanding anger. In abusive situations, anger is not the problem, the underlying belief system of a person is. To deal with the anger will never help an abuser. They need to have their belief system changed. To give people false hope that dealing with anger will change the abuser is wrong information and can actually be deadly. An abuser is not an abuser because he is angry, an abuser is angry because he is an abuser.Change the belief system of an abuser and there will no longer be an anger problem.
Thanks Lisa. Our belief system so often determines our behavior. That system usually is the result of what’s in our emotional baggage. So as we get rid of our baggage, our beliefs and actions change and anger just isn’t necessary.
It is true that anger derives from inner thoughts and roots that we haven’t dealt with. I had anger and still after I became a Christian I was still fighting with anger. It took me almost 2 years of self assessment-psychoanalysis and a lot of prayer. Because I come from a family where there was domestic violence and physical abuse I was angry since a small child. Until i realized as a Christian that Jesus want to give me peace and rest, and that I don’t have to fight and defend for myself any more. So the root of my anger was that I have been raised to fight for everything, defend myself, and no matter what I had to be strong as a stone. Jesus rescued me from my chains, and false beliefs. Now I am free, because I lay my life, my past and my future to Him.
That’s a powerful testimony Katerina! What an accurate description of the inner beliefs that make so many people are angry. Thanks for sharing.