How to make a good impression

Dr. Grant Mullen Churches and Leadership, I am significant, Live fearlessly, Moods, Relationships, Uncategorized 20 Comments

We all like to make a good impression

But what if you really don’t like the impression that people see?

So you create an image of yourself that you think people will like better. Then you put all your time energy and money into maintaining that image.

These images are called masks. You use a mask to project an image and then hide behind it.

We hide behind our masks

After this video you won't need a mask anymore

In this video you’ll learn how to create a mask and then remove it to make the best impression.

You won’t need a mask anymore.

You’ll be amazed how much easier relationships will be.

Just click on the video and I’ll show you how to do it.

To live a transformed life you have to be yourself.

Share the transformed life. Send this to your friends so they can make the right impression too.

Now I want to hear from you

What kinds of masks do you see people wearing to hide themselves? Just leave your comments below.

Get rid of your mask

I’ll talk to you next week,

Grant

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Comments 20

  1. That was fun. One mask I took off recently was the social extroverted mask. “Those” people look like they have purpose, they obviously look fulfilled and happy so I wanted to be one of those personalities. They seemed to get noticed a lot and I wanted to be noticed. I found my self instead feeling exhausted and inadequate because the authentic, real me is an introverted thinker, reader, artist. I realized that there must be a reason God made me this way, he loves me, so I’m going to love me and be me…..you know what? I have a lot more energy now and am so happy and my husband and boys are happy that I am happy.

  2. Hi Grant

    You come over so well with everything you say, and we do sometimes hide behind a mask, but I do feel I can speak openly with some of the people in my church and they also come across with how they feel.

    I really feel uplifed when I listen to you and I am trying to really change my thought pattern, and to look back on the promises God gave me and His wonderful healing touch on me when I first became a Christian.

    I just want to thank you so much Grant.

    Gayle

  3. Hilarious can not describe your message, moving, very funny and so so clever.
    I just loved it so much, you have made my day a different day. I got dressed with an extra mask on this morning as I have two meetings with two different types of people. I looked at myself after watching your video and laughed at what I was wearing, as this did not show the real me, it showed what I thought the other people thought I should look like. SO I will be changing before my meetings. Thanks so much, I love your teaching methods, you make me laugh while I am learning, you’re Awesome, thank God 4 you!

  4. WOW – This video ‘We all like to make a good impression?’ spoke volumes to me!! When watching it, I was thinking, “When is Grant going to act like himself? I rather watch the real Grant!”
    This got me thinking that maybe God is saying the same thing about us. God wants us to be who we are naturally and not faking to be someone who we are not. Some people spend so much time and money being someone who they are not, yet they didn’t discover who they really are.
    I am looking forward to next week video when the real Grant Mullen shows up..

  5. Grant,

    You’re funny. I like your blogs. This one makes a very important point. I see people wearing masks such as their degrees, their material possessions, where you live in town.

    Keep up the good work. You are making a difference.

  6. HI GRANT, LOVED THIS VIDEO!!! YOU APPEARED SO DEEP, BUT SO SUPERFICIAL!! I’D MUCH PREFER TO LISTEN TO THE OLD GRANT. THE HOLY SPIRIT HAS BEEN TAKING ME THROUGH A VERY PAINFUL, BUT MUCH NEEDED PROCESS OF TRANSFORMATION IN MY LIFE. MY INNER LIFE DOES NOT MATCH MY OUTER LIFE. BECAUSE OF ABUSE AND DYSFUNCTION IN MY LIFE, I WORE MASKS AND TRIED SO HARD TO CONVINCE PEOPLE I WAS OKAY WHEN I REALLY FELT LIKE I WAS DYING INSIDE. SO THANKFUL TO THE LORD FOR HIS HELP AND YOUR VIDEOS FOR HELPING ME BECOME AWARE OF THE ISSUES IN MY LIFE..GOD BLESS.

  7. Dr. Mullen,

    That was well done and quite humurous, but many true things are said in jest.

    Sometimes we have to take the risk of being ourself. It’s amazing that this can be a learned process. It’s a process that does not come naturally to all people.

    We can only understand this through a revelation of the Father’s love. As we renew our mind, the masks will start to fall away.

    Jim

  8. This was so good. You are so funny. I spent most of my life trying to be different because I wanted to be loved. Today I had a breakthru with a counsellor about an issue I had decades ago and I came home to this. I love your videos and how you teach with compassion and humor – it really has helped me learn. After today I can see the good in me and I’m going to love and accept the me that God made. Thank you so much for going online and helping so many people.

  9. It is indeed harder to be your “unmasked” self if you lack confidence in your real self, but definitely more rewarding to yourself and others if you can let them see your real self, warts and all.

    Our church has the theme on it’s sign “Real with God, real with one another”. I guess someone in the leadership a few years ago realised the importance of not putting on a religious facade when we fellowship with one another, but that it was necessary to show our true selves to have real fellowship, and thus to “encourage one another, and all the more as you see the day approaching”.

  10. Dr. Grant that was impressive! How many times have we seen others doing just that then shudder as we wonder if we are doing it too!
    I love the movie Overboard, with Goldie Hawn and Curt Russel because it exhibits how a person’s character can be changed when they are stripped of all the superficial garbage that keeps them in bondage and cast out to deal with real life.
    The Truth of Jesus gives us the standard with which to view our ‘real’ selves.
    And He likes us, lol!

  11. Grant.

    I loved your blog and through FB it’s the first time I have been able to view your videos. (Finally).

    That video reminded me of a beautiful Max Lucado book I read to my boys called “You are Mine” about the “wemmicks” placing stars or dots on people on how they look or what they do. A star is great…. and a dot is the opposite.

    I can do that to myself often, often, often especially through how I look physically. Been on a tremendous amount of diets/exercise regimes etc all my life and spent a fair bit of hard earned money on the latest diet/book on how to look “beautiful” in the eyes of the world. I now realise that God doesn’t care how I look on the outside. He’s interested only in my heart.

    Thank you for the work you do. It’s amazing…. once I know that I wear masks.. being aware, helps me recognise and change.

  12. What a message to wake up to. Are you superfical. Learned years ago you cannot hide behind a mask, something will come along and rip it off and you will look like a fool, and like a open wound it bleeds and hurts and looks very ugly. Thanks for the reminder this morning I am amazing in God’s eyes. I am wonderfully made, and he has my best intrest at hear.

    Greg Thurlow

  13. You totally crack me up! I loved it. I laughed out loud so hard. The message was serious though. Sometimes we have to put on masks, especially in front of religious people or they won’t be able to know what to do with us. My daughter got in trouble in school and I couldn’t be myself with the principal because I would look nuts to him-everyone has to be perfect there. If you’re not sensible and logical and perfectly self-controlled, in other words, if you’re a robot, you’re accepted. I usually don’t care if I’m accepted, but to not make things worse for our family, I had to pretend I was “normal”-that’s hard you know, but I did a darn good job of it. They won’t even call me to work there because one day I was myself and didn’t fit into their perfect little mode. That’s ok. I can never be perfect and am better off than them because at least I know it.

  14. What a crack up you are it was a good thing Kathy had a tripod this time , as maybe the camera would of shook with laughter at this blog. Thank-you for the good teaching I will remember this because of its impression that it makes being so funny and so true. Wow masks are a deep concept in itself because it makes me wonder what is my true self and how do I just take off the many masks I must wear and enjoy me just being my true self. How do we begin to find our true selves? What does that even look like? I look forward to your next blogs, you and Kathy make a marvelous team!!! Keep them coming!

  15. All of us wear masks to some degree or another. Some have beena able to be more authentic than others, but I think all of us struggle with it to varying degrees. I know I wear masks. and I’m not sure who I really am under these masks. The fear of being rejected and told that the real me is unlovable is too much to bear. I love the line from a popular U2 song “I want to run/I want to hide/I want to tear down the walls/That hold me in silence.” Not necessarily talking about masks, but the same idea, that there is something we are hiding behind or something keeping us from being who we really are and speaking our hearts.

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