Because they tried to do the right thing!
But it still hurt.
And it left emotional scars and wounds that still cause pain today.
How can that happen in good families?
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To live a transformed life, you need to be able to forgive anyone who caused hurt.
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They thought they were doing the right thing
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My parents overcompensated for me because of my mother having an affair and becoming pregnant with me and never knowing that if i was my father’s or the other mans . They never told me and I learned of this after they had both died . I am now 45 years old. I lived as a child with my aprents going through the emotions of guilt and upset at each other but never fighting . They would over love me or pull away at times emotionally. I need to forgive them for that .
Anna
Thank you for what you have said. I read a book called Choosing Forgiveness by John and Paula Sandford some time ago. It gave me some very specific prayers to pray forgiveness into my life for many different types of relationship. Choosing to forgive has made such a difference for me. Life is a lot lighter. 🙂
Thank you, Kathy. God’s timing is perfect, in your message. While listening to you, this evening, God reminded me of a time when I was about 5 years old and my parents had gone away from home, on an extended vacation. Even though my mother hired an experienced baby-sitter, I realize now that I felt my mother had abandoned me. God showed me that the enemy created a lie and I became fearful of being left alone. Tonight, I prayed to God and forgave my mother, reminding myself that I am a child of God, that God did not give me a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and sound mind, through Jesus Christ who lives in me.
Understanding my identity in Christ and exercising that authority has given me more freedom than any other thing in my life. At 54 years old, God has shown me that I can truly break that chains of spiritual and emotional bondage by forgiving others, forgiving myself, and taking responsibility for my own sin in hurting other people. Choosing to repent and ask for forgiveness has been an area of significant change for me. I am no longer a captive, bound up in depression or mood swings, but am able to take my thoughts and memories to the cross, knowing that it is Jesus Christ who has set me free, through his blood. Thank you, Kathy and Grant for continually sharing God’s word and truth with all of us. You are indeed good and faithful servants. Praise the Lord for you both.
Well said, Mary Margaret.
Anna
Hello. Its funny that the example Kathy gave is exactly what I experienced as a child. Me and my two older brothers went to a two week camp. It is somewhat unclear on some of the details of the whole experience. But some of it is very clear. I was very shy as a child with lots of hang ups coming from a family that had parents who fought in front of us and caused trauma in me and being sensitive it put me in a fearful state especially with strangers. And camp is ful of strangers. I was ill equipped to deal with interpersonal relationships. I didn’t want to be there and after the end of the first week I thought I could leave when my parents came for a visit. I cried and fussed to go home but that didn’t work and had too stay another week. I am grateful that my brother was in the same cabin as I was. At least I wasn’t totally alone. None the less I felt my parents abandoned me. Today I deal with similar issues, issues of abandonment. I am aware of it as I wasn’t for so many years. I wake every morning and say out loud and claim my position in Christ. “I am a child of God whose son gave His life for me and His blood cleanses me from the sins of the world and gives me the ability to renew my mind. Rich
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Thanks Rich. It’s amazing how many people have had scarring experiences from camp (or boarding school). It happens at such a vulnerable age.
Perfect timing! My counsellor was just explaining to me that I need to forgive my grandmother and father who were verbally, emotionally and physically abusive. I kept telling her that I was a kid then and that I am not hurt by what they did, but I am hurt by the bullying I have received as an adult, which I have to cry out to God about on quite a regular base. Your message re-emphasizes everything she was saying to me. I am going to take my childhood hurts to the cross so that the adult in me can overcome and move forward as a child of God. Thank you.